All the Best Sania!
Pictures of Sania traditionally dressed in a red sari, and Shoaib, her groom, going through the traditional wedding rituals, holding the hand of Sania’s father, naturally evoke from readers nothing but blessings and good wishes for the couple.
The most admirable part of this wedding has been the strength of the age old institution called Family. The family that nurtures us lovingly in our childhood, prepares a strong foundation for our career and also ensures for our future security even when the senior members (parents) may no longer be physically present then. The blessings of family go a long-long way in ensuring a happy life for generations.
Whatever be the controversies surrounding the couple prior to the wedding, Sania will always have the confidence of having a strong family support, with educated, caring, intelligent parents to back her in trying times. This confidence also strengthens the foundation of marriage and future family life. Sania respected her parents’ feelings and they in turn respected hers all through her life.
There are many examples of star couples who are enjoying a firm married relationship because they respected family values all the way, before as well as after marriage. Abhishek-Aishwarya Bachchan, Rajeev-Sonia Gandhi, Kajol-Ajay Devgan, Madhuri Dixit-Sriram Nene, Sachin-Anjali Tendulkar, they are all examples of couples who selected their soul mate themselves but with full family support. Even after marriage, however big a celebrity they may be, the responsibilities of family is uppermost for all of the couples cited here. Whether living in a joint family or a nuclear one, all these couples have high respect for each other’s (extended) family. That is a great virtue to live by for a better world with healthier relations.
Now that Sania is married, it is of no importance for us whether she lives in India or Pakistan. It is entirely her choice. Marriage is a bonding of love which entails several mutual give and takes, which occur voluntarily out of love for the partner. Don’t we appreciate Sonia Gandhi for adopting Indian culture so elegantly? She was like a typical Indian dutiful daughter-in-law and a doting wife and mother, who followed every traditional customs of her in-law’s family. Her acceptance of Indian culture and values is all the more noteworthy, because girls so often find it difficult to adopt the ways of their in-law’s family even when they are married within the same community.
If we appreciate Sonia Gandhi for what she did, we should certainly have no issues with Sania if she chooses her Husband’s country to be her home. She is India’s daughter and what matters most is her happiness wherever she lives.
Love has no place for ego. Both partners accept each other as they are, and at the same time trying to come up to the expectations of the partner, out of love and not out of some competition. After marriage priorities do change. Too much of egoist, carefree nature may ruin any relation, because being in relation is not about one single person but two people wanting to be one. Whether it is a parent-children relation or husband-wife relation, there’s no one way traffic. Every relation is strengthened by mutual love, respect and support.
A happy family is the greatest insurance for a happy life!