The Made for Marriage show of Raakhi Saawant has come to an end.
The brains at NDTV imagine should have started itching again. Since they did not have anything to produce for entertainment, after a lot of scratching they had conceived a ‘made for marriage’ show with an item girl to consume the imagination of public and create a market for selling condoms and cosmetics.
Now that the show is over they need to find the next theme for their show. Hope they don’t come up with a sequel to ‘Made for Marriage’ show as a ‘Show all Shanti Mooharath’.
Ofcourse I am not serious.
It is not as if the institution of marriage is never going to be the same again due to this stupid show. It is not that meaning of marriage from now on gets changed to ‘competing and qualifying to get garlanded by Raakhi Saawant or some item girl’.
I have no issues with whatever non-sense a commercial channel comes up with, to create a market for its advertisers. Except for the fun and foolish element, there is nothing in it to talk about.
Raakhi’s choice as usual, is an Indian origin ‘Businessman’ living abroad, as it happens to all outdated Indian actresses. The comical elements were the other participants and finalists in particular. The winner is NDTV, while the losers are the people who talk and write about it, including this blogger.
Though marriages are not made in heaven, they are not made in swayamvars too. Marriage in Indian concept is about friendship. It is a promise of friendship between the couple to keep up their friendship, inspite of all the physical, logical, mental shortcomings of the couple.
In Hindu Dharma this friendship between the couple leads to love and that love leads to sex between the couple. In those times, that’s why men and women were married off at a very early age that they find this friendship, love and sex between them. And that sex between the couple reinforces the love and friendship they have. But the basis of love and sex between the couples is the friendship. This is the vow of friendship every hindu takes in Saptapadi mantra, going around the fire.
Raakhi does not provide this promise of friendship, for she has no idea about her choice, except that he loafed around her for the TV. Nor she is a docile old girl going to take her husband’s diktats lying down, becoming a slave. She says “I am ready to get married now, but we need to understand each other better off camera. We will soon get married in front of all of you in keeping with all our traditions”.
She has chosen somebody for the camera and God knows what her real plans are. Anyway that’s her problem, though she enacted it in front of camera.
For those who want to get married, just a word of caution.
Believe me. Real Love needs lot of hard work. It takes time to build that love. Sometime it may take a decade. Sometimes a century. It needs lot of patience, compromise and commitment to build love between people. It just does not happen in a second.
It is best to choose a partner who has similar value systems as your own. And build your friendship with that partner. Your partner is not your servant, master, parent or child. Your partner is your first and best friend. Ensure your partner becomes your first and best friend in life.
This is what Saptapadi mantra has to say:
“By these seven steps we have now become friends. Let our bonds of love be there forever. I will never part your love. Let you also never part my love. Let us be together. Let us think together. By loving each other, let us live amicably well. Let us enjoy all happiness and good things together. Let our aspirations, ceremonies and minds come together. Let us have everlasting friendship”
Recited in every Hindu marriage ceremony
Ashwalayana Grhyasutra 1-7-19