Marriage is a social bond of living together but sometimes it turns out to be very sour and bitter experience of life that there is no meaning of marriage. Marriage is not successful because the expectations of both husband and wife are not compromised which results in dispute and argument.
One of them or both want to save the marriage but every passing day changes in worse and poorer.
Tensions reach a point where there is no way to go hand in hand and divorce seems to be the best solution. If the marriage is continued it may results in dire consequences, which is not acceptable for both the families and even for the couple.
Why are people afraid of divorce?
People are always afraid of divorce and prefer to continue bad marriage just because of the society and the relatives.
I know such people who argue that, inside the threshold they could not be blamed, but once the people get a hang of divorce their tongue would start dancing and singing a song of divorce. They are right, but bad marriage gives nothing but tension, loss of business concentration, family welfare and even health problems. Due to the society, they prefer bad marriage to divorce. Divorce may actually provide them complete freedom to think, make new strategy and look for new life partner.
Is Divorce the only solution?
Divorce is a legal way of separation, which means that the couple will not have any relationship in the future as husband and wife. In some countries, after divorce, couples are seen completely relaxed and satisfied as they have different options to choose from. If you have kids and you are worried about them, now you can make new strategies for their education and career. You can also think about yourself because life is either too short to too long but you have to lead it anyway.
In bad marriage, arguments, disputes and differences develop with every passing day without any solution and life becomes hell.
The day starts with quarrel on trivial things and ends up with husband coming late just to sit alone and smoke, drinking and imaging past remembrance but nowhere to go.
The most important thing which is not regarded as necessary in bad marriage is children.
Children grow up watching their parents clashing and disputing each day. They are deprived of parental love and care. They have no one to share their problems and encourage on getting distinction in examination. The sense of unsuccessful marriage and failure in married life make the kids introvert.
It was also seen that due to bad marriage, children are peevish, spiteful and bad-tempered just because they do not believe anyone easily. They have the same picture of man and women in their mind as their parents.
Divorce is considered a bad mark on one’s ability to continue marriage and maintain the family, but actually, it can offer much more than your expectations. Children can have their share of love from either mother or father.
Divorce will give you the freedom to think and do what you want. Maybe, you can realize your mistakes or make a new strategy for future.
Chances are; after legal separation you have enough time to understand life and how to deal with it because you are out of the cage.
November 27, 2010 at 12:36 am