Courtship and acceptance are poles apart. Showing courtship to a girl could be courting trouble. If the girl shows a bitter reaction, then she may break the hell loose on your head. Winning the heart of fair-sex is really an art. There goes a notion in India that if a girl smiles at you, it means love in her heart for you. But in the context of modern living, with more and more young ladies taking to careers, this can hardly be a truth.
It is said that behind the success of every man, there is the contribution of a woman. This is definitely an axiomatic truth. The logic is your life can not be productive, unless a lady contributes solidly to it. You require proper knowledge to understand a female necessary for your life. Usually people choose a girl as per her looks, smartness and qualification. But this is just an act of your intelligence; you have made the blunder of not using your understanding.
The first act is applying your understanding to know whether her wavelengths would match with those of you. For that you need to observe her behavior silently. If you know she is a perfect match for you, then you zero in on her with the acts of courtship.
- Keep your appearance reserved without showing pranks natural for your young age- Show seriousness in your behavior that you want to woo her for your life. There are guys who show very casual demeanor, while inviting a girl‘s attention. Girls are more mature and often practical in their wisdom while selecting a man for a relationship. They refuse to accept a person who is simply champion in the body-building competition. You would be proven wrong if you think that only a handsome physical appearance would attract females.
- Keep the dignity of your personality- Your personality has the highest value before your girl. Do not lose the dignity of your personality before the girl you want to love. Laughing funnily and cutting jokes can make you lose your esteem before her.
- Give straightforward suggestions of your interest in her- You need not waste your precious time running from pillar to post for stealing the love of the girl. Find the right medium so that you can express your heart‘s feelings in a positive manner.
- Find the right medium of expression- How would you tell her that you are in love with her. Think and decide on it. There are guys who keep on thinking about this throughout their lives without daring to give a vent to the feelings of their hearts. It is never a crime to confess love before a woman. Love is the most procreative and constructive thing in everyone’s life. So dare to bare the feelings of your heart.
- Decide intelligently about the first act of courtship- You need not kneel before her with a rose in your hand and say-“Honey, I love you”. That may be embarrassing for her. Sending cryptic messages by cell phones is again a frivolous act. We suggest writing a letter as the first act of courtship. Your love for her has its own logic. Explain it properly.
- First Love letter – You need not write too much about her pretty looks as the key factor behind your decision to love her. Here are some tips for your first love letter.
- Illustrate what are her positive points helpful as “life building material” for a successful partnership. Tell her how you plan to move ahead in her company in every venture of your life. Give ideas about the prospects of your career, dreams and ideas and how she fits into those to be your “dream girl”.
- Do not react if she reacts at your suggestions in writing for love- It is immature to react in the face of a girl, while she reacts at your first act of courtesy. Be bold before her by keeping a reserved appearance. Tell her boldly that your decision for her is final and you would not budge even the world comes to an end. Girls always become happy to watch the tenacity in males to love them.
- Watch her negative side- This is another important side of your observation about her. Usually girls resist the invitations of love but gradually agree to the proposals of love. But most people commit the mistake of not knowing the negative sides of their women. Romance has to transform in to sublimes of understanding. But if she has a nature which would be a barrier for a relationship, then such a relationship should be discarded. Mere physical attractions do not make the relationship last long.
- Do not give indiscreet suggestions about sex and physical relationship- Good girls shy away from men who hanker after their bodies. Control your body language while you listen to your girl She would find this in a bad taste if you steal glances at her private parts. Be sure she would come on her own for the opening of the sexual part of the relationship. Boys keep on insisting kissing their girls and for physical affairs. This shows low self-esteem. Sex is the integral part of love. She would not hesitate to go for it as both of you reach the emotional planes necessary for the same.
- Know the sexuality of your partner- There are men and women with a lot of frigidity towards Sex. Once your emotional companionship reaches an intimate level, urges for sex will transpire. This is not unnatural. Do not be indifferent towards your own and your partner’s sexuality. Discuss this with her so that both of you can live a satisfactory sexual relationship.
- Never bother about the insecurities of your life before your girl-friend- More often girls are very practical in their views. If you keep on lamenting on your miseries and troubles in life, that will disappoint your mate. Girls appreciate spirited, adventurous, brave nature in men. Insecurities are parts of everyone’s life and living. Lending oral support to those while in conversation with your girl can bring a “break-up” in your relationship.
- Stay away from cheap praise- Praising her qualities is one thing. But if you resort to cheap praise then she would lose her respect towards you.
- Gift her intelligently- A girl would appreciate any gift which confirms your love brilliantly. But you should not make the mistake of buying unnecessary gifts for her. This will make her afraid of your spendthrift ness.
It is said every thing is fair in love and war. It has also been said that courtship for love is an art. But to be master of that art, you need to learn about the skills. Therefore learning the skills of an artful lover is an endless job.