Each and every person leads a different life and has different problems. There can be a lot of things to be unhappy about like an overdue bill, an unexpected accident or a simple misunderstanding. So it is natural for a person to get disturbed frequently. When this disturbance persists, it gets into all that the person is involved in. If one’s temper tampers with his career, it is a clear warning that the career will not endure much time.
Display of temper is an indication of anger or rage. Even small children exhibit temper tantrums when they feel things are not in their way. Many of us must have shouted at, punched or kicked others during our childhood when we were angry. It is also usual for parents to cane kids during such occasions.
Even as children we were never excused of displaying temper. So as adults, it is out of question.
The concept of self-control
Unlike children, adults are supposed to be ‘mature’ and at a workplace, showing more maturity is better. A workplace consists of hundreds of employees and without good self-control; teamwork would remain a day dream. All of us have heard great talks about honesty, sincerity and dedication that a person should have to his job. But when a person cannot control his temper at the office, these values are useless and others will pay no regard to it.
Why temper management is important at a workplace?
Though we may declare that household and business affairs shouldn’t be intermixed, very few people are successful at it. There are workers who yell at their colleagues and use mean language over petty issues and managers who threaten and disparage their subordinates over simple mistakes. It is very important that a congenial environment should be maintained at the workplace for the success of any business venture. This positive environment is to be contributed by the workers of the firm by exercising self-control. Moreover good team work is the result of unity and temper management.
Getting a little angry is normal but the display of uncontrollable temper at a diverse situation, such as in an office, is not defensible. Other than screaming or scolding, there are several accepted ways to indicate a person’s disagreement and unconcern, like talking calmly. Excessive display of temper will make you an ‘odd-man-out’ at your office. You would find no pleasure in your work and you could even get terminated for your behavior.
How to manage temper effectively?
- Every time you feel like bursting out at a colleague, hold on for a second and think whether it is right and reasonable at the moment. Also try to find out whether your anger is related to something other than the current issue.
- When you feel that your temper is rising, try to move away from the frustrating situation. Once you are away from it, you will feel better.
- Remember that if you shout at others thoughtlessly, you are going to regret it sooner or later. Try writing your feelings on a piece of paper and passing it over to your colleague. This may sound hilarious; but isn’t it good to avoid a fit of temper than regretting it in future?
- If you can forgive your partner on an issue, it is the best thing you can do. This time your colleague would realize how you must have felt. Most probably he would approach you with a nicer term.
- Learning relaxation exercises like breathing exercises, yoga and music will help a lot to avenge your temper in a healthier way.
Put off temper as far as possible and try to be a self-possessed person, rather than a loaded gun.